Nana Biography

You were sensitive to his reactions in the sense of…

Yes, I used to know right away that something was wrong. Very often, it would, I would just freeze.

You wanted to please very much?

Yes. Yes. And I was afraid of him. I mean, afraid of his sarcasm and a little bit afraid of his anger, and he was, he is, I didn’t think of it at the time, as sensitive about the children, I thought he was too tough on them. He wasn’t. Of course he wasn’t. But at the time, there were a lot of things like that. After all, I didn’t know him very well. I’d only known him six weeks when we were married.

Well, often, when people get married, and they have kids of their own, it’s very hard to share the parenting role, because they’re so important to you and then you’re so concerned, as you said, you’d only known this fellow six weeks.

Six weeks! And he is taking this role, and it can be sometimes very difficult.

I told him to take it. I wanted him to take it. I was glad he took it. And, and yet I felt very often that there was an unfairness, and then he would come back at me and say, “look, it’s better to be stern and stick to it. “, maybe I’m unfair, that’ll come out later, But I don’t want to back down in the middle of things, you’ve got to back me up if you want me to do this.”  And he was right.

But what you were saying earlier is, I think, that sometimes people think that an awareness of others hurts and feelings comes out of one’s own experience of having been either…

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