Nana Biography

It wasn’t southern. I realized when I went back, that I didn’t want to live there, and this affected my relationship with this guy. He really thought that he wanted to be a lawyer and live in this little town, and this was God’s heaven, and I realized that all of a sudden that heaven wasn’t there.  (laughs.)

I must’ve been about 19, I don’t remember exactly how old I was, but I was 21 when I was married and there was another year and a half that went by before we were married. Don then came to see me, and by that time he had proposed. Now this is interesting. I thought I wanted to marry him. I was in love with him . I was thrilled at the idea that he was from California and there were palm trees and oranges and he was good looking, and he was also rich, and all of these things. And also, I guess I was more thrilled than in love. When he came back to visit, I was proud of him and took him to the country club dance. The other boys that I liked we’re at the dance too. I realize then that I was cheating, in a way. I hadn’t committed myself to either one. It was that here. I was with two people, I was supposedly in love with both of them, and what was I going to do? And I didn’t want to tell my Kentucky boyfriend because it was going to be a long time in between, I thought, I don’t want to sit home, but if I tell him, I’ll be home every night.  so I didn’t tell him. I lied to him, and what always bothered me, was that I really hadn’t made up my mind.  Anyway, Dan and I corresponded, and finally I wrote to him after a year went by, he was in law school here that first year, and I said that I really didn’t feel I could make a commitment to marry him even though he’d asked me and I said probably yes. I needed to see him more, because I had only seen him those few times. 

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