Nana Biography

She shouldn’t have taken my side necessarily, but she should’ve been a little more understanding. She wasn’t a bit. And I don’t know whether she ever talk to her husband and asked him not to at all. 

That’s what you would have liked.

Yes, I think there should’ve been, I think Thesing is cruel, but she, she kept telling me, you know, she had a sister, and when they had five brothers, and my sister was like I was. Her brothers would pick on her and she would dissolve into tears and go away, but she said, I stood my ground, and I should be like her and not do this. And I think I was a little jealous of my mother too. She was very pretty and very attractive and, When I was before 16 I really didn’t think of myself as being attractive, having never been with a boy, so I liked her and all that, but there was no warmth.

Did she spend much time with you?

Oh yes. And she went shopping for dresses, she was very proud of me, and she gave me all kinds of support. She was a good mother, there’s no question about that, but I’m not sure all relationships are all hugged and kiss all the time. Now my little daughter-in-law in South America and their little girl are in a totally different association. Whether it will turn out differently, I don’t know. But that is a little girl who climbs all over you and hugged you. I didn’t do that. And my mother used to say to me, “you know, you never. When I used to try to hold you on my lap, you would always just climb down, and, you know, I thought to myself, well, a two or three year-old, how can you… She sort of resented the fact that I didn’t. I think she did. And I kept thinking, “well, I don’t know why I didn’t “but then it just built up that way. We did not, we were not a hugging and kissing family at all. And, I don’t know. The boys and I were.

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